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by Wendy Bancroft

Pushing for What’s Underneath

by wendybancroft on July 19, 2012

Today a fellow adoption blogger–wordsmithwest at reallifeadoptioncom–wrote about how her foster adopt son is finally beginning to allow some of his deeper pain to surface. When it came, it came strong

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Do all adoptees need to grieve their adoption?

by wendybancroft on April 23, 2009

This question was recently posed by one of the growing community of people on Twitter with an interest in adoption and I find it a fascinating and important question. In our family, the answer seems to have been a definite “yes.” Our daughter did not start coming to terms with some of the demons in her life until she began to understand the source of her unhappiness and fears. But I know that not all people who are adopted share this experience/need and yet a conversation I had with a young man who had recently been reunited with his birthmom and while he said he had little curiosity or need to find this person when he was younger, when he did meet her and other half siblings, he felt an unexpectedly strong emotional stirring. So this has made me wonder whether the need is always there, whether admitted or not. And whether some level of grief for what was not, might be necessary in order to move on in at least some areas of your life.

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“Leap of Faith”?

April 18, 2009

Yesterday, Judy on Twitter Adoption Moms, posed the question: “Have you or others you’ve known followed a “leap of faith” to adopt?” Made me think–was my decision a “leap of faith”? Here’s what I wrote: I guess so. I’ve never thought of it that way. I’d had several miscarriages, been taking the gamut of fertility […]

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Watching “Adopted,” the movie

April 13, 2009

Today I was reminded of the film “Adopted,” available as of today as a download from the site http://www.adoptedthemovie.com. It’s a powerful film, especially for those of us involved in a transracial adoption, and especially if we have adopted from, or are adoptees from, Asia.The film documents the experience of two families–one of whom adopted […]

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Hello and Welcome

March 20, 2009

Leah was adopted from the Philippines 23 years ago. It’s been 23 years of love and joy matched by anger, depression and fear. This is her story, but it’s her parents’ story too. It’s also her brother’s story and his family’s story–because adoption affects everyone.

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